Knowing Me, Knowing You
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“Best Psychology Book of the Year”– Bill Hajdu, Berkeley, California on www.amazon.com
368 pages paperback with comprehensive index, includes 74 diagrams and charts (several in full colour). Available from Trafford Publishing. ISBN 9781412082914
The handsome paperback version of ‘Knowing Me, Knowing You’ can be purchased directly from the Trafford website and Internet retailers such as Amazon and Books Etc. ‘Knowing Me, Knowing You’ can also be ordered via high street chains such as W H Smith and Waterstones and most reputable high street bookstores, using ISBN-10 1412082919 or ISBN-13 9781412082914.
‘Knowing Me, Knowing Y0u’ is also available as a PDF. The PDF contains 373 pages , with comprehensive index, includes 74 diagrams and charts (most in full colour).
About ‘Knowing Me, Knowing You’…
- Do you want to know more about you – why you do what do, why you think and feel as you do? Do you want to resolve issues – perhaps that have been troubling you for years…?
- Do you want to understand others more? Do you want to improve key relationships – so that you and the other person(s) in the relationship can get more out of it?
If the answer to any of these questions is ‘Yes’, then you ‘Knowing Me, Knowing You’ will give you real insight into why things are the way they are – and what you might be able to do about them.
Are you simply curious about human nature?
Then read on!
Set in the frame of a practical ‘self-help’ book, ‘Knowing Me, Knowing You’ provides what is arguably the most advanced understanding of the human psyche we have so far.
It does this by creating a structure around which all the different elements of the behavioural sciences can be integrated – ie: Integrated SocioPsychology! This structure is composed of the Gravesian approach – and Don Beck & Chris Cowan’s Spiral Dynamics ‘build’ – set on a foundation of Hans J Eysenck’s Dimensions of Temperament and played out through Robert Dilts’ Neurological Levels model. Additionally, it takes in the concepts of schemas & memes and the way they influence how we make meaning – L Michael Hall’s Meta-States.
‘Knowing Me, Knowing You’ also draws on the research and ideas of Ken Wilber, Sigmund Freud, Muzafer Sherif, Jean Piaget, William Moulton Marston, John Bowlby, Erik Erikson, Alfred Korzybski, Abraham Maslow, Albert Bandura, Aaron T Beck, Martin E P Seligman, Gregory Bateson, Lawrence Kohlberg, Richard Bandler & John Grinder, Frederick Bartlett, Richard Dawkins, Leslie Cameron Bandler, Jerome Kagan, Rodger Bailey, Nicholas Emler, Shelle Rose Charvet and Susan Blackmore – to name a few! It incorporates the conflict management concepts of Robert Blake & Jane Mouton and Ken Thomas & Ralph Kilmann – creaters of the Thomas-Kilmann Conflict Instrument. Even B F Skinner’s rats and Ivan Petrovich Pavlov’s dogs get put to good use!
Whether your concerns are centred on yourself, your personal relationship, your children, family and friends – your work colleagues, even! – reading ‘Knowing Me, Knowing You’ will give you insights into the issues involved. Armed with that understanding, you are then in a position to know what can be changed – with some ideas on how to bring about change.
Excerpts from the book can be viewed here.
Introduction: This Book will Change your Life…..1 …and the Spirituality Stuff?…..3 What to get out of this Book…..4
Part One: Knowing Me…..7
1 Do I really know Myself?…..8 What is ‘Self’…?…..10 Spiritual Self or ‘Selfplex’?…..14
2 The Nature of Ideas…..20 The Brain as a Battleground…..23 Overcoming Limiting Beliefs?…..26
3 What about Temperament?…30 Dimensions of Personality…..31 Psychoticism and Personality…..34 What if I’m an Unstable Introvert?…..40 Avoiding the Lie…..43
4 Self as Identity…46 The Criticality of Identity and Values & Beliefs…..51 Aligning the Neurological Levels…..54 Problems in Identity Formation…..56
5 Developing Selves…60 A Theory which explains Everything?…..62 The Nature of vMEMES…..68
6 Selves of the 1st Tier…..77 BEIGE…..77 PURPLE…..77 RED…..81 BLUE…..84 ORANGE…..87 GREEN…..89
7 Selves of the 2nd Tier…..92 YELLOW…..94 TURQUOISE…..97 CORAL?…..100
8 Environment, Identity & Transformation…..102 We change the Environment; the Environment changes Us…..106 Variations in the Formation of Identity…..109
9 The Mechanics of Change…..112 Escaping the Gamma Trap!!!…..120
10 Temperament and Change…..125 From the Horizontal to the Vertical…..128 …and the Point is…?…..134 Getting to Grips with Temperament…..137
11 Yet More Selves…?…..140 Troubles in Transition…….150
12 Harmony, Wars, Stacks and Devastation…..152 vMEME Wars…..155 vMEME Stacks…..157 vMEMES and Psychopathology…..161
13 How We get Our Selves into States…..168 How do You attribute?…..171 Handling Meta-States…..177
14 Troubleshooting Me, ‘My Self’ and My Stress…..181 Understanding Stress…..181 Internal or External, Temperamental and Memetic?…..186
13 Tips for Your Psychological Health…..191
Part Two: Knowing You…..193
15 Making Sense of Other People…..195 vMEMES, Meta-Modelling and Meta-Programmes…..199 Observing vMEMES…..207
16 Strategies for Healthy Relationships…..212 Communicating the Message…..219
17 Conflict Modes…..224 PURPLE…..225 RED…..228 RED-BLUE Transition…..229 BLUE…..230 BLUE-ORANGE Transition…..231 ORANGE…..231 ORANGE-GREEN Transition…..232 GREEN…..233 2nd Tier…..234
18 Conflict Management…..237 Relationship Values & Tensions…..239 A Maslowian-rooted Approach to Conflict Management…..240 Arguing from the same vMEME?…..246 Understanding with the Meta-Mirror…..247
19 Women, for Men…and Men, for Women…..251 Sex & Social Differences between Men & Women…..252 Men, Women, Ambition and Caring…..258 The Cycle…..261
20 Sex, Faithfulness and Romantic Relationships…..265 Is Monogamy normal?…..267 The Importance of Environmental Factors…..272 So how do We foster Personal Sexual Fidelity?…..274
21 Consummate Love…..276 Rescuing Relationships…..279 Breaking the Break-Up Pattern…..282
22 Younger Children, for Parents (and Teachers!)…..287 In and out of the Womb…..292 From Infancy to Puberty…..295 What about the Memes?…..298 How vMEMES learn – Part 1…..299
23 Teenagers, for Parents (and Teachers!)…..301 A vMEMETIC Transition…..303 Friends and Sex…..306 Teenagers and the Higher vMEMES…..308 Erica’s Story…..310 How vMEMES learn – Part 2…..311
24 The Workplace, for Workers…..314 The Workplace is a Dangerous Place…..318 Who’s doing What? Where? When? How?…and Why?…..320 Workplace Strategies…..324
25 Troubleshooting My Relationships…..32621 Tips for Managing Relationship Disharmony…..328 The Value of Relationships…..332
The Bigger Picture…..336
About Keith E Rice…..q
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