Contents

Introduction: This Book will Change your Life.....1
   …and the Spirituality Stuff?.....3
   What to get out of this Book.....4
Part One: Knowing Me.....7

1 Do I really know Myself?.....8
  What is 'Self'...?.....10
  Spiritual Self or 'Selfplex'?.....14
2 The Nature of Ideas.....20
  The Brain as a Battleground.....23
  Overcoming Limiting Beliefs?.....26
3 What about Temperament?...30
  Dimensions of Personality.....31
  Psychoticism and Personality.....34
  What if I'm an Unstable Introvert?.....40
  Avoiding the Lie.....43
4 Self as Identity...46
  The Criticality of Identity and Values & Beliefs.....51
  Aligning the Neurological Levels.....54
  Problems in Identity Formation.....56
5 Developing Selves...60
  A Theory which explains Everything?.....62
  The Nature of vMEMES.....68
6 Selves of the 1st Tier.....77
  BEIGE.....77
  PURPLE.....77
  RED.....81
  BLUE.....84
  ORANGE.....87
  GREEN.....89
7 Selves of the 2nd Tier.....92
  YELLOW.....94
  TURQUOISE.....97
  CORAL?.....100
8.Environment, Identity & Transformation.....102
  We change the Environment; the Environment changes Us.....106
  Variations in the Formation of Identity.....109
9 The Mechanics of Change.....112
  Escaping the Gamma Trap!!!.....120
10 Temperament and Change.....125
  From the Horizontal to the Vertical.....128
  …and the Point is…?.....134
  Getting to Grips with Temperament.....137
11 Yet More Selves…?.....140
  Troubles in Transition.......150
12 Harmony, Wars, Stacks and Devastation.....152
  vMEME Wars.....155
  vMEME Stacks.....157
  vMEMES and Psychopathology.....161
13 How We get Our Selves into States.....168
  How do You attribute?.....171
  Handling Meta-States.....177
14 Troubleshooting Me, 'My Self' and My Stress.....181
  Understanding Stress.....181
  Internal or External, Temperamental and Memetic?.....186
13 Tips for Your Psychological Health.....191
  Part Two: Knowing You.....193
15 Making Sense of Other People.....195
  vMEMES, Meta-Modelling and Meta-Programmes.....199
  Observing vMEMES.....207
16 Strategies for Healthy Relationships.....212
  Communicating the Message.....219
17 Conflict Modes.....224
  PURPLE.....225
  RED.....228
  RED-BLUE Transition.....229
  BLUE.....230
  BLUE-ORANGE Transition.....231
  ORANGE.....231
  ORANGE-GREEN Transition.....232
  GREEN.....233
  2nd Tier.....234
18 Conflict Management.....237
  Relationship Values & Tensions.....239
  A Maslowian-rooted Approach to Conflict Management.....240
  Arguing from the same vMEME?.....246
  Understanding with the Meta-Mirror.....247
19 Women, for Men…and Men, for Women.....251
  Sex & Social Differences between Men & Women.....252
  Men, Women, Ambition and Caring.....258
  The Cycle.....261
20 Sex, Faithfulness and Romantic Relationships.....265
  Is Monogamy normal?.....267
  The Importance of Environmental Factors.....272
  So how do We foster Personal Sexual Fidelity?.....274
21 Consummate Love.....276
  Rescuing Relationships.....279
  Breaking the Break-Up Pattern.....282
22 Younger Children, for Parents (and Teachers!).....287
  In and out of the Womb.....292
  From Infancy to Puberty.....295
  What about the Memes?.....298
  How vMEMES learn - Part 1.....299
23 Teenagers, for Parents (and Teachers!).....301
  A vMEMETIC Transition.....303
  Friends and Sex.....306
  Teenagers and the Higher vMEMES.....308
  Erica's Story.....310
  How vMEMES learn - Part 2.....311
24 The Workplace, for Workers.....314
  The Workplace is a Dangerous Place.....318
  Who's doing What? Where? When? How?…and Why?.....320
  Workplace Strategies.....324
25 Troubleshooting My Relationships.....326
21 Tips for Managing Relationship Disharmony.....328
  The Value of Relationships.....332
Concluding Words…?.....335
The Bigger Picture.....336
Web Resources.....a
Index.....b
About Keith E Rice.....q