Contents
Introduction: This Book will Change your Life.....1
…and the Spirituality Stuff?.....3
What to get out of this Book.....4
Part One: Knowing Me.....7
1 Do I really know Myself?.....8
What is 'Self'...?.....10
Spiritual Self or
'Selfplex'?.....14
2 The Nature of Ideas.....20
The Brain as a Battleground.....23
Overcoming Limiting Beliefs?.....26
3 What about Temperament?...30
Dimensions
of Personality.....31
Psychoticism and Personality.....34
What if I'm an Unstable
Introvert?.....40
Avoiding the Lie.....43
4 Self as Identity...46
The Criticality
of Identity and Values & Beliefs.....51
Aligning the Neurological Levels.....54
Problems in Identity Formation.....56
5 Developing Selves...60
A Theory which
explains Everything?.....62
The Nature of vMEMES.....68
6 Selves of the 1st Tier.....77
BEIGE.....77
PURPLE.....77
RED.....81
BLUE.....84
ORANGE.....87
GREEN.....89
7
Selves of the 2nd Tier.....92
YELLOW.....94
TURQUOISE.....97
CORAL?.....100
8.Environment,
Identity & Transformation.....102
We change the Environment; the Environment changes
Us.....106
Variations in the Formation of Identity.....109
9 The Mechanics of Change.....112
Escaping the Gamma Trap!!!.....120
10 Temperament and Change.....125
From the
Horizontal to the Vertical.....128
…and the Point is…?.....134
Getting to Grips
with Temperament.....137
11 Yet More Selves…?.....140
Troubles in Transition.......150
12
Harmony, Wars, Stacks and Devastation.....152
vMEME Wars.....155
vMEME Stacks.....157
vMEMES and Psychopathology.....161
13 How We get Our Selves into States.....168
How do You attribute?.....171
Handling Meta-
14 Troubleshooting
Me, 'My Self' and My Stress.....181
Understanding Stress.....181
Internal or
External, Temperamental and Memetic?.....186
13 Tips for Your Psychological Health.....191
Part Two: Knowing You.....193
15 Making Sense of Other People.....195
vMEMES,
Meta-
Observing vMEMES.....207
16 Strategies
for Healthy Relationships.....212
Communicating the Message.....219
17 Conflict
Modes.....224
PURPLE.....225
RED.....228
RED-
BLUE.....230
BLUE-
ORANGE.....231
ORANGE-
GREEN.....233
2nd Tier.....234
18 Conflict Management.....237
Relationship Values
& Tensions.....239
A Maslowian-
Arguing
from the same vMEME?.....246
Understanding with the Meta-
19 Women,
for Men…and Men, for Women.....251
Sex & Social Differences between Men & Women.....252
Men, Women, Ambition and Caring.....258
The Cycle.....261
20 Sex, Faithfulness
and Romantic Relationships.....265
Is Monogamy normal?.....267
The Importance
of Environmental Factors.....272
So how do We foster Personal Sexual Fidelity?.....274
21
Consummate Love.....276
Rescuing Relationships.....279
Breaking the Break-
22 Younger Children, for Parents (and Teachers!).....287
In and
out of the Womb.....292
From Infancy to Puberty.....295
What about the Memes?.....298
How vMEMES learn -
23 Teenagers, for Parents (and Teachers!).....301
A vMEMETIC Transition.....303
Friends and Sex.....306
Teenagers and the Higher
vMEMES.....308
Erica's Story.....310
How vMEMES learn -
24 The
Workplace, for Workers.....314
The Workplace is a Dangerous Place.....318
Who's
doing What? Where? When? How?…and Why?.....320
Workplace Strategies.....324
25 Troubleshooting
My Relationships.....326
21 Tips for Managing Relationship Disharmony.....328
The
Value of Relationships.....332
The Bigger Picture.....336
Web
Resources.....a
Index.....b
About Keith E Rice.....q
