Contents

Introduction: This Book will Change your Life.....1
    …and the Spirituality Stuff?.....3
    What to get out of this Book.....4
Part One: Knowing Me.....7

1 Do I really know Myself?.....8
   What is 'Self'...?.....10
   Spiritual Self or 'Selfplex'?.....14
2 The Nature of Ideas.....20
   The Brain as a Battleground.....23
   Overcoming Limiting Beliefs?.....26
3 What about Temperament?...30
   Dimensions of Personality.....31
   Psychoticism and Personality.....34
   What if I'm an Unstable Introvert?.....40
   Avoiding the Lie.....43
4 Self as Identity...46
   The Criticality of Identity and Values & Beliefs.....51
   Aligning the Neurological Levels.....54
   Problems in Identity Formation.....56
5 Developing Selves...60
   A Theory which explains Everything?.....62
   The Nature of vMEMES.....68
6 Selves of the 1st Tier.....77
   BEIGE.....77
   PURPLE.....77
   RED.....81
   BLUE.....84
   ORANGE.....87
   GREEN.....89
7 Selves of the 2nd Tier.....92
   YELLOW.....94
   TURQUOISE.....97
   CORAL?.....100
8.Environment, Identity & Transformation.....102
   We change the Environment; the Environment changes Us.....106
   Variations in the Formation of Identity.....109
9 The Mechanics of Change.....112
   Escaping the Gamma Trap!!!.....120
10 Temperament and Change.....125
   From the Horizontal to the Vertical.....128
   …and the Point is…?.....134
   Getting to Grips with Temperament.....137
11 Yet More Selves…?.....140
   Troubles in Transition.......150
12 Harmony, Wars, Stacks and Devastation.....152
   vMEME Wars.....155
   vMEME Stacks.....157
   vMEMES and Psychopathology.....161
13 How We get Our Selves into States.....168
   How do You attribute?.....171
   Handling Meta-States.....177
14 Troubleshooting Me, 'My Self' and My Stress.....181
   Understanding Stress.....181
   Internal or External, Temperamental and Memetic?.....186
13 Tips for Your Psychological Health.....191
   Part Two: Knowing You.....193
15 Making Sense of Other People.....195
   vMEMES, Meta-Modelling and Meta-Programmes.....199
   Observing vMEMES.....207
16 Strategies for Healthy Relationships.....212
   Communicating the Message.....219
17 Conflict Modes.....224
   PURPLE.....225
   RED.....228
   RED-BLUE Transition.....229
   BLUE.....230
   BLUE-ORANGE Transition.....231
   ORANGE.....231
   ORANGE-GREEN Transition.....232
   GREEN.....233
   2nd Tier.....234
18 Conflict Management.....237
   Relationship Values & Tensions.....239
   A Maslowian-rooted Approach to Conflict Management.....240
   Arguing from the same vMEME?.....246
   Understanding with the Meta-Mirror.....247
19 Women, for Men…and Men, for Women.....251
   Sex & Social Differences between Men & Women.....252
   Men, Women, Ambition and Caring.....258
   The Cycle.....261
20 Sex, Faithfulness and Romantic Relationships.....265
   Is Monogamy normal?.....267
   The Importance of Environmental Factors.....272
   So how do We foster Personal Sexual Fidelity?.....274
21 Consummate Love.....276
   Rescuing Relationships.....279
   Breaking the Break-Up Pattern.....282
22 Younger Children, for Parents (and Teachers!).....287
   In and out of the Womb.....292
   From Infancy to Puberty.....295
   What about the Memes?.....298
   How vMEMES learn - Part 1.....299
23 Teenagers, for Parents (and Teachers!).....301
   A vMEMETIC Transition.....303
   Friends and Sex.....306
   Teenagers and the Higher vMEMES.....308
   Erica's Story.....310
   How vMEMES learn - Part 2.....311
24 The Workplace, for Workers.....314
   The Workplace is a Dangerous Place.....318
   Who's doing What? Where? When? How?…and Why?.....320
   Workplace Strategies.....324
25 Troubleshooting My Relationships.....326
21 Tips for Managing Relationship Disharmony.....328
   The Value of Relationships.....332
Concluding Words…?.....335
The Bigger Picture.....336
Web Resources.....a
Index.....b
About Keith E Rice.....q